Anonymous asked: im self concious and worried about how people view me. always act as if someone is watching me. get nervous when i talk to someone i'm attracted to. im 18 never had sex. i'm pretty happy, but maybe its time i met someone special. oh i havn't had a gf in 8 years or so. yeah. needed to get it off my chest. thanks!

First of all, you need to make a few changes to your life. As uncomfortable as it may be, try jumping at every chance you get (even if you think nothing may come out of it). For example: smile at strangers, make small talk with the person next to you, make it a habit you ask a friend out to coffee every week, etc.

There are endless opportunities to expand your friendship network and build up your self-esteem at the same time. When you get nervous, just think to yourself: “what’s the worst that could happen?” Just take a deep breath and try again. Good luck and just remember, it is never too late to start anything :)